Father's Day Fling

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Talk about an awesome Dad...My husband Jonny is coming around. I have posted about our marriage slipping away (click here) and I gave a little energy into praying and using some advice from MckMamma and I have to say it really worked. Hard? Yes Very. But I am trying everyday to love my husband even if he seems to not love me and be nice to him even when is not nice to me, and in general put him first. Well we have been doing great (from my point of view). I haven't been able to keep my hands off him. Then he did something I have been wanting for a long time. He built us a new picnic table. It is awesome!!! I am so happy with it and truly proud of my sexy, manly, talented, hardworking husband.

This is a picture before it was completely finished and taken with my cell phone. I will have to upload a better picture now that it is done and use my camera for a better quality picture. While he was building it I would help where I could. And I have to tell you that the smell of Jonny and the wood (strange, I know) just made me want him so much more. I really had a hard time helping him when all I wanted was to ..... Ahem I have to keep this PG-13. My in-laws may read this. Anyway, he smelled really good. So I must say the last couple of days we have been...lets say connecting. Well I must get ready for bed, I have a very early day tomorrow and I want to connect with my hubby now.

Mommy Confession

So there is my mommy confession. What’s yours

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I love this idea. Of course it came the day I did the most terrible mommy thing. I FORGOT MY SON AT SCHOOL!! I know this is just awful. My husband usually picks Ryan up but once in a while he will ask me to do it. Usually not a problem and it really wasn't a problem today. I even had my friend Shar over and I said to Jonny that she could watch the little ones if they were napping. Well time got away from me and the next thing I know, Lynn (Becca's mom who also teaches at Ryan's school) called my cell phone saying she had Ryan and was bringing him home with her. Oh course I was like "What time is it? Oh My God! I forgot Ryan". She just laughed and said the school had been calling the house, but we were outside and did not hear the phone. I can't believe I did that. Boy I feel like the worst Mommy!

Marriage

I don't know if I should be writing a post like this. But I really need to get this out and in the open. Sometimes it is hard to use the appropriate words when talking to someone with emotions running high so I was thinking if I write what I am feeling I might get it right. My husband has been on a funk lately and it feels like our marriage is slipping though our fingers. We have been here before with one or both of us in a "funk" but when it happens I feel like it is me and the boys living our lives and Jonny is just living "next to" us. We are just coexisting rather than sharing our life. Truly, I hate this feeling. I miss "us". I miss being with him, because right now I don't like being with him. When we are in the same room, it is so stressful I just want to leave. The friction or tension between us is huge and makes things very uncomfortable. Before you ask, I have tried to get him to talk, but he tells me "If I knew what was bothering me I would tell you, I just don't know". Well I believe that to an extent. I have had that feeling but it was my depression, and if he is feeling this way he should get help. If he is feeling like he wants out of the marriage and our life then I would like to know. Maybe we can get counselling and get back on track. I have been asking for us to get some marriage counselling for a while just so we don't get to the point of no return. The more I think about our marriage the more I am starting to understand what MckMamma has to say about her marriage which you can read here. One thing she says is maybe marriage is not meant to make you happy but to make you holy (she is a real God loving woman). And if you act like Jesus does and love the unlovable, respect when one acts disrespectful, and speak nicely even when they are not speaking nicely we become more holy. God loves us when we are unlovable, and we all feel good when we are loved even when we are unlovable. This brings a peace in you which will find its way into your marriage. If I stop wanting and waiting for Jonny to start making me happy, and I focus on making him happy, maybe just maybe it will come full circle and I will then be happy. Kind of confusing...yeah I know, just read MckMammas post. She can explain it better. But for now I am going to focus on my husband and choosing to love him and only him. What Jonny does I can't control, but I can be happy in believing in our marriage and knowing that God believes in it to.

"Not Me!" Monday

There we are on Memorial Day, blogging about what we did not do this week. I am sure I have a ton of things to not admit to. Lets see if I can remember. If you want to join in the fun head on over to MckMamma's blog. Or you can just read everyone else's "Not Me's"!

This week was way to busy for us. It was not me that over booked myself and the kids. I strive to keep the children's lives from being a rush around kind of life. They need time to just be, and I would always think of that before volunteering to do everything.

If I had overbooked the family, I would never try to go to a planning meeting with the kids in tow, and expect Zachy to behave like a little angel. And then I wouldn't get mad that he kept running all over the church, because I thought he would sit and play nicely. Not me, I would have been responsible enough to find a sitter or not offer to go to the meeting. And if I did to this, Zachy would have been a wonderfully behaved little boy, because my kids are perfect.

In one of the many things I offered to do this week, I didn't almost cut my pinkie finger off with my very sharp chefs knife. I know how to handle knives and I would not be rushing to cut a watermelon up so that we could get to the next thing I had offered to attend. Not me! I would never be so careless with a knife.

I didn't drag my feet getting ready yesterday just so I wouldn't have to sit at my in-laws when it was raining outside. I wouldn't behave that way, its not that bad having the kids stuck in side at their house. If that was me, I have every reason to want to wait until it cleared up so we could be outside while there.

What did you not do this week?

Busy week

This as been one very busy week. We have been running none stop since Monday. The boys had a hard time settling down for bed last night. Ryan had Tee Ball, which doesn't get over until after 7pm. My boys are usually in bed at 7pm. This week bed time has been pushed back to 8ish if we were lucky. With Tee ball twice this week, Robbies birthday, and Village Snack bar on Monday with Aunt GG they did not get to bed on time once this week.
Me...I had meeting after meeting this week. Plus, the preschool picnic and the last day of preschool which the kids sang songs for the parents. I can't imagine if I had a full time job, I wouldn't be available for all this. I am extremely grateful that I can be part of my children's schools, church groups, and volunteer when needed. Volunteering is something I love to do. It is very rewarding. I really don't know how to explain how much I enjoy offering my time and services without getting "paid" to do it. Ok...maybe that doesn't sound right. Never mind, let me just say that if I had a "job" instead of volunteering, it wouldn't be as much fun.

The weather here in the Green Mountains has been HOT. It was 83 today and yesterday. The kids have been playing in the little pool I picked up the other day. Luckily I did because I am sure they have sold out the last couple of days. Zachy loved splashing around in the water until he fell over and his face went under water. Then he was done. Griffin tried wearing his goggles, which don't fit on his face, but he still loved trying to use them.





Blessings,

Yummy

I just wanted to share a great recipe that is super easy to make. It doubles as a side dish or a dip for tortillas (this is how I eat it, the hint of lime ones).

Corn and Avocado Salad/Dip

2-3 Avocados diced
1 medium red onion diced
2 11oz canned corn
1 red pepper diced
1 15oz can of black beans
1 small can of chick peas
juice for 2 or 3 limes
about 2 tablespoons of olive oil
a bunch of cilantro chopped

Dice everything and toss in a large bowl. Drain corn and add to veggies. Drain and rinse beans and add to veggies. Whisk lime juice and olive oil and chopped cilantro together then pour it over the veggies and mix. Chill for about 30 minutes.
Then EAT!!!

My measurements are purely guesses. I am not sure how much olive oil I use. I really just drizzle it into the lime juice until it looks right. I have to make a special bowl without beans for my sister-in-law Nancy, because she doesn't like beans...can you imagine that. Really the beans are wonderful in it. You can serve this as just a side dish or will chips as a dip. Either way it is so good.

Child Labor Laws...

Not here in Vermont. Just kidding. Ryan has been bugging us for a long time to let him mow the lawn. Tonight when Jonny got home he let Ryan mow a little strip out back. He did great! So, Jonny let him mow most of the side lawn. Ryan is just too funny, how much he wants to be like his Daddy...Our lawn care business IS called Melen and Sons.